Anonymous asked:
I'm 19 years old and I'm starting to like this man who is 30 years old. I know he's too old for me but I hate it when i catch feelings for him. Everything he does affects me though I tried to get away from him but when I do I get to miss him so bad. What should I do? I wish I could teach my heart which one is not to love.

think of it like this, he is like your uncle or you could even be looking at an older brother…yeah you are an adult I mean you are 19, but 30 is so different from 19. you have to think of things in the most realistic way. what would a 30 year old GENUINELY want with a 19 year old? a booty call? or nah? just be realistic…a crush is a crush but don’t let it get too far.

Anonymous asked:
hi ate my boyfriend and i had sex for the first time and we used a condom for protection (we put it on correctly and it did not break) but i also took plan b for extra precaution. what are the chances of me being pregnant?

bruh you paid $60 for a plan b pill, you are not pregnant!!!!!!

Anonymous asked:
(Part 3) I'm kind of scared at the same time because I have so many thoughts in my head about what's to happen. He says that we'll be fine, just taking it step by step. However, there's so many bad scenarios in my head. - -" Is it just me or? We're still just getting to know each other, but maybe when he comes home we'll have time to talk with each other. Thanks for listening Ate.

I totally understand but you wont be able to enjoy your relationship if you keep worrying. nothing is going wrong right now so don’t make an issue by overthinking and enjoy your relationship while it is the way it is right now. you still have learning and getting to know each other to do, which will occur, you just have to have trust and faith not only in him, but also in yourself!

Anonymous asked:
(Part 2) I overthink sometimes, because I've heard stories about long distance relationships, and how they don't work out. My boyfriend says that he's coming home for christmas and we'll be able to have our first date and be together. But after that, he's going back to Hawaii to finish college. Btw, we're both in college. I kind of like it how we don't talk as often because it let's me learn how to not be too clingy, you know?

yes!

Anonymous asked:
(part 1) hey ate, I haven't been in a relationship in a while. I recently just got into one. I don't know what to do anymore. I don't know how to be in a relationship, this is all new to me again. Is this normal? The thing is, I'm also in my first long distance relationship. My boyfriend and I are both in college. We don't talk as much, just general things such as "hows your day?" I understand that we're both busy, especially since we have a 14 hours time gap.

awhh :(

Anonymous asked:
hi ate. its the one who told you about my bf lying about his first time but yea im okay. we talked it out and he told me he feels like shit and that i was truly the one who took it so we're all good now:) also today is our 11 month anniversary

good luck :) move on and learn <3

Anonymous asked:
hi ate.. so my ex and I broke up a few months ago & now he's with another girl. And there's this other guy who's interested in me. The thing is, is that my feelings for my ex hasn't left yet. And i feel like they should because he already moved on..I wanna like his new guy, but NOT for the wrong reasons (by just using him to get over my ex). What should I do?

don’t use the new guy to get over your ex. you have the right mindset on your shoulders and it takes time to get over someone, for some, it takes longer than others. do no rush it and just enjoy your relationship status right now until you are sure about your feelings

Anonymous asked:
I like this guy in my psych class. He is really really hot. He doesn't talk much, just like me. He is in varsity football but he isn't cocky, he is actually kinda shy. But yeah. I don't know how to talk to him without being weird.. Any advice?

y’all are in the same class. there has got to be an opportunity for you two to talk. if not, make one.

Anonymous asked:
How do I get to know & try to be friends with a guy if i only have one class with him, which is phys ed, but girls and guys are separated. & I always see him at lunch but he sits with his friends?

you can probably catch him before and after phys ed. say hi to him then and find something to compliment them about! don’t look at the cons, find the pros.

Anonymous asked:
Hi! So I'm currently in my first relationship. We started dating about a week ago lol and I've been overthinking like crazy. I'm so happy we're together but I constantly think of excuses for him when he doesn't reply. I feel like I'm being too clingy too. Overthinking sucks but I cantttt help it. I really like him though and he's a super good guy who know how to treat a girl right. It's just the communication when we dont see each other the whole day kind of thing. But he somehow makes up for it

hey he cant always reply instantaneously. I would only really be concerned if he doesn’t reply quickly but when he is around you, his phone is always in his hand. you know he does his best. reconsider your expectations! guys aren’t always like girls in the sense that they text back in .000000000001 seconds.